I am amazed that so many people have a hard time telling fantasies from real life. Or, I should rather say, the meaning of fantasies from real life. What I am thinking of is the assumption that since I write about fantasies, and especially, about spanking and submission fantasies I have to be a closet spankee and submissive (or whatever label is preferred). Most people assume that I am an unfulfilled spankee and my problem is, mainly, that I lack someone to tan my behind now and then.
As a true sceptic I can't dismiss such assumptions right away but I maintain that things are far more complex than that. Here are some of my thoughts about this. Firstly, there is no one-to-one relation between fantasies and reality. Fantasies are like dreams. What you dream, during the night, does not reflect real happenings all the time. It is the same with fantasies. Fantasies represent emotions and thoughts. The thoughts and emotions (desires, wishes, fears, anxieties) are real but the images are not. They stand for something and that something is not necessarily similar to the image. Wanting to be spanked in a fantasy does not, necessarily, mean you want it to happen in real life. It might mean that, I admit that (being the sceptic I am) but it might just stand for something else.
Secondly, I have come to realise that fantasies (at least in my case) often are in opposition to what my life is like. I am a quite independent person but in my fantasies I am, often, subject to others. It tells, I believe, something about a conflict in my mind but then if I am too independent in my real life, why can't it be that I am too submissive in my fantasies and that the desirable balance lies somewhere in between?
So, while the jury is out on the question whether I am an unfulfilled spankee or not I will blog about my fantasies, sharing them with anyone reading my scribblings. There must be plenty of people who are like me, fascinated by something, perhaps, at times, even obsessed with it but too shy to act upon it or thinking, like me, that the real action that the fantasies point to may be something completely alien to the fantasies themselves.
If there is someone I have spoken to and who feels targeted by this rant (most likely without intention from my side) then feel free to tell me that I am a very rude and insolent person! Perhaps you should dig deep into your minds and suggest some really nasty punishment for me. And, remember, punishments are supposed to be unpleasant!